Many of we “single women over forty” have had to
get back into the workforce at a time when millions of people are looking for a
job. But we cannot get discouraged – in
fact, we need to do just the opposite!
We have a right to get the job we want and to be
happy doing it! A recent Gallup poll found that the
“happiness” factor of Americans could be linked to two important criteria:
living in medium-sized cities, and working in the industries that are “alive
It may take a little “out of the box” thinking, but
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toward (re)creating yourself , and remember, you are not alone!
Di Chapman, founder of Words to Your Advantage
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Brandy A. Lee, Human Resources and Operations Leader at Kieckhafer,
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Writing from personal experience, Brandy discusses issues on
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At the risk
of “cheating”, I’m going to re-post my Valentine’s Day blog from last year – as
it is still relevant and expresses my sentiments this year as well. Have a wonderful Valentine's Day!
everyone has a lovely Valentine’s Day. Unfortunately, I know many people say
“It’s too commercial;” “I don’t want to be told when to buy flowers;”
“Valentine’s Day Sucks!” (A recent quote from a dear friend in Iowa), or, “It’s too
much pressure to be romantic on demand!” Blah, blah, blah. Well, come on now –
if you don’t want to participate in the spirit of Love, which includes giving,
receiving, being a part of . . . . on one specific day of the year - then
don’t. But please, don’t ruin it for the rest of us. Thank you.
Now we all
know there are many kinds of “love” and one of the nicest, with the potential
to last a lifetime, is the love between good friends. I had the privilege of
hosting a party Sunday for several good S.S.O.F.F* friends! It was our
first official get together since the release of my book “How to Survive in the
21 Century as a S.S.O.F.F.*. And, of course, my friends are the ladies
who contributed their personal experiences and observations to the “S.S.O.F.F*
It was such
fun to see the camaraderie between them, even though many hadn’t seen each
other in years! Granted, they all have being “suddenly single and over forty”
in common, however, each differs in background, careers, and lifestyles, to
create a unique, diverse, fascinating group of friends. I am so grateful and
honored to be a part of this circle, and truly hope we all keep the connection
“alive and well” for a long time to come.
So. . .
. to the Valentine Scrooges out there: “You need to take a minute to
really think about those you love and how often you acknowledge this without
the help of a specific day to remind you. And if it’s not often, or maybe
never, then for goodness sake, let Valentine’s Day give you the nudge you need
to ensure your love lasts a lifetime!”
Yes folks, Southern
California does have “weather”!
(Did anyone notice the hail and thunderstorm last Saturday morning?) Yes it does have rain, lightening, thunder and
a tornado or two, and perhaps to tourists and transplants from the mid-west and
east coast – that’s barely a “blip” on the weather radar! But to a native Californian, it’s real Weather!
Okay, compared to states east of the Rockies, it
doesn’t last long – but remember, Southern California
is not geared for stormy weather! We don’t have storm cellars or storm
windows. Our freeways are meant to
handle nutty drivers and earthquakes – not flood waters that could make Noah
proud! Hail that stays on the ground
long enough for kids to make “ice balls” is rare and actually a treat. (My kids are keeping theirs in the freezer) But it’s good enough for us to call weather!
Now I will admit –a few days, or even
a week of unstable weather seems like a long time to Southern
Californians. And many
locals really don’t know how to deal with it.
For example. . . . . .
There are those that suffer from the
“how do I dress for this?” syndrome. It
seems there are only two choices – the “bundle from nose to toes” style or the
“shorts and T-shirt no matter what” style.
I find it hard to believe that the “I live in SoCal and I can wear
shorts all the time” types, seem to
think an air temperature of 50 degrees or less, plus the wind chill factor, with
rain blowing sideways, isn’t cold!
Then there are the “rainy day”
drivers who have no clue how to drive
in the rain. I won’t even go into speed and wet roads or the myriad of common sense rules that no one observes,
because, as everyone knows “It never rains in Southern
California. . .”
Also, I’ve noticed that less than one-third
of all local drivers use their headlights when driving on a rainy day. California
Vehicle Code 24400, the headlight law, has been in effect since July 1, 2005,
so. . . . “Windshield wipers on. . .
.Headlights on” Please! Okay – off my
“soap box” . . . . for now.
those of you who live in places with sleet, snow, and below freezing
temperatures, “I salute you!” At times I
even envy you the “holiday card” perfection of marshmallow snowdrifts and
icicle trimmed trees. But, no matter how
Southern California’s weather may pale in
comparison to other states, I humbly ask you to acknowledge that we do have it! And if you must, stay and enjoy it with us.
It’s All Relative!
Did you know that May 18
was National Visit Your Relatives Day?
Honest! Of course, we have all
heard the phrase, “You can pick your friends but you can’t pick your
relatives!” As a result, we’re all
related at some point to some one we would not choose as a friend - and vice
versa. God does
have a sense of humor!
But what about picking
“in-laws?” Unless you are from a culture
where a child’s future spouse is chosen at birth –no one has a say in that,
either! And mothers, don’t ever kid yourselves into thinking you can influence
your sons’ or daughters’ choices of partners.
No matter how close you are to your children, their choices will often
surprise and bewilder you. And of course
– rarely does anyone marry only a spouse – they marry a family! (Kate
Middleton, anyone?) Parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even pets
come into the mix. And with any luck at
all, you may be compatible with a few of these family members. I personally have had the most luck with
I’m not sure where the
dynamic of opposites attracting comes from, but being a romantic at heart, I
would like to believe “love conquers all.”
And, it may for some fortunate couples.
However, being “opposites” as in-laws does not attract love or any other
favorable emotion. At best, we can hope
for tolerance, and at worst – “Meet the Fockers!”
And by “opposite” I don’t
mean the obvious such as race, religion, politics, etc. (Although, avoiding discussions about
religion and politics is always a good call.)
I’m referring to the basic perceptions all families have about life,
love, and the pursuit of happiness. It
has been my observation that most of us don’t adapt easily to change in our
routines, especially where family gatherings are concerned. One-on-one we can be amiable, flexible and
even enjoy each others company. But,
put us in a group and . . . . not so much!
Having been an in-law
several times, whether through my own marriages, my children’s or my sibling’s,
I am certain that the one thing we all have in common is the best interests of
our loved ones. Unfortunately, that can, and does, get in the way of familial harmony.
So, back to the beginning,
since we have no choice as to whom we become related to by law, since we love
our own family (most of the time), and since we want to be involved in our
loved ones’ lives (again, most of the time), what choice do
we have? Take the high road! Do our best to be tolerant and respectful of
our differences. Be a little more
flexible with our routines, and we may find some of their customs actually enjoyable.
Remember, we do love the same family
member(s) that made us in-laws, and the
best choice we can make is to be a likable in-law. We
may be surprised to find, without picking one, we’ve made a friend. Happily, I did! Now, go for a visit!